To cultivate a relationship with anyone, it is important to know what it means to actually have a healthy relationship. There are many aspects of a healthy relationship, a few of which include (but are not limited to) trust, communication, intimacy, and of course love. A relationship of any kind always involves giving and receiving. It may be the giving and receiving of kind words, material gifts, or even the gift of serving (eg: taking out the trash or cooking a delicious meal. Bonus points if you served the other without being asked to do so.) When it comes to our relationship with God, He initiated by giving up His only son because He loved us first.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16).

God is the only One Whom is completely worthy of trust. He did that for us so that we could have intimate relationship with Him which includes communication through prayer. The most important thing to know when you want to grow in relationship with God is possibly the most obvious. He loves you. God loves you. The Creator of the universe, the King of kings and Lord of lords, the most High and Holy God loves you.  Sometimes it is the most simple things that we can be the most confused about. The book of 1 Corinthians verse 27 says: But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty. The simple fact is that God wants a relationship with you because He loves you. If you want to continue to grow in your relationship with Him, you must keep this foundation in your heart, mind and spirit.


What is my part?

You may be saying “Halleluiah! God loves me! But I know a relationship is a two way street… what is my part in our relationship?”

  1. Relationship with Jesus

Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free (John 14:6) .

Jesus is the truth. Jesus said that we must abide in His word. Then we will know the truth (which is Jesus). And then we will know truth (Jesus) and the truth (Jesus) will make us free. The truth is not a concept or a philosophy. The truth is a person named Jesus. It is the truth you know, not the truth that you hear, that makes you free. This means that you must know Jesus, and not just know about Him, to be set free. He is our way to the Father. Our relationship to the Father is contingent upon our relationship with Jesus. Jesus and the Father are One. So to nurture our relationship with God, we must continue in His word.

For any relationship to grow, it needs to be nurtured, watered and fed. Consider a marriage relationship. In a happy marriage, each spouse continues to remain interested in the other. As the saying goes, familiarity breeds contempt. We can never allow ourselves to become familiar (or bored) with the things of God. In a happy marriage, each spouse will continue wanting to learn new things about the other, or have new experiences with the other, even into older age.

Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. (John 15:8)

To grow in your relationship with God you must allow yourself to be dependent upon His Word. You must think of His word like oxygen, and without it you cannot live. That may be a vivid depiction, but it is absolutely true. We just read above that we are a branch and Jesus is the vine. What happens to a branch that is cut off from the plant? It dies. If you are not growing, you are withering away. I don’t mean to be harsh or to frighten you. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying that you could lose your salvation, and I’m not trying to upset your religion. But Jesus makes it very clear that we cannot produce fruit on our own. We absolutely need to abide in Jesus if we want to bear the fruit in our lives that God wants for us to produce.


  1. Fellowship

To continue in your journey of relationship with the Lord, it is important not to forsake fellowship. Yes, I am telling you to go to church! I meet so many Christians that have so many reasons not to go to church. Some reasons even seem legitimate. I am not downplaying any reasons that you may have against going to church. What I am saying is that regardless of why you may not want to go, it is still important to go to church. The most common thing that I hear is “my salvation does not come from a church building, it comes from Jesus.” And that is absolutely true; your salvation does come from Jesus. But guess what? Salvation is not the ONLY reason to go to church. If that were the case then everybody would only come to church one time, get saved, and then never return. But that is not the case. But what does the Bible have to say about it?

And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching (Hebrews 10:25).

We just read that we believers are to assemble together to provoke each other to love and do good and to build one another up. That is the reason that the Word of God says that we believers must meet together. Jesus is the One Who saved our souls, and we are meant to come together in unity and love to build each other up in faith. We must have some sort of fellowship, relationship with one another, in order to grow our relationship with God. Here is the Biblical proof:

If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also (1John 4:20-21).

The truth is that we cannot truly say we love God unless we love our neighbor who was made in God’s image. It is the commandment that Jesus gave us to love God with all that is within us, and to love our neighbor as ourselves.

If you are not already going to church, it is so important that you find a good church that teaches the full Gospel, and to get plugged in.  Begin by praying and asking God to lead you to the church that He would see as the best fit for you to grow. Then step out in faith and begin to visit some churches. Pray before you attend service that God would reveal to you if that is where He wants you to stay, or if you should keep searching. This is exactly what my husband and I did. I will tell you that we visited several lovely churches with wonderful people, but God made it very clear once we found the ministry that God wanted us to join.

If you have made up your mind to go on a journey with the Lord and to find a church to join, I would like to invite you to come and visit our church, Grace and Peace Global Fellowship. I have personally grown so much in my walk with the Lord since my husband and I joined our church. Our pastors preach and teach the unadulterated Word of God and they do not sugar coat anything, praise God. There is real love and unity within the membership as well, and I have seen real growth in each individual, as well as in the church as a whole.

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